Have you ever noticed that you don’t always get to pick the leaders in your life?
You know what I mean. Sometimes you just get assigned a leader that you have to follow whether you like it or not. It’s one of the harsh realities of life.
But, consider that:
Leader is a distinction.
A distinction is that which distinguishes one thing from another; an accomplishment that sets one apart. “Leader” is a distinction or a role that someone was assigned to play; a specific role with specific responsibilities and things to be accountable for, are what make up the distinction Leader.
Consider for instance that, relevant to you, your “boss” is a distinction “boss”, operating from a series of expectations and standards that come with that particular territory.
People are distinct.
To be distinct is to be distinguished as individual; marked out and separated by a visible sign; separated so as not to be confused with any other thing; special.
Consider further that each and every person is special because we are all distinct. And consider further still that your “boss” is not just merely a distinction. Beyond just being your “boss” there exists a flesh and bone person, operating from a series of opinions and judgments, past experiences, likes, dislikes, feelings and agendas that come with the condition of being a human being.
Being a leader of any kind – a boss, teacher, coach, president – does not make someone more distinct or distinguished than you. When someone is assigned to lead they have merely agreed to assume an accountability and step into a distinction, bringing with them their own very distinct and personal identity — what they think, who they like , what they know and don’t know, how they feel and how they operate because –
leaders are people too!
Leader is a distinction. And, we are all distinct and, when you play the game of “follow the leader” while collapsing these two worlds — the world of the role that someone was assigned, and the world of personal identity — you have put yourself at risk! By failing to keep separate who someone is from the role they’ve been assigned to play, you run the risk of being disappointed, becoming disillusioned – of making someone greater than you think you are, rendering yourself, eventually, unable to generate compassion because you won’t recognize (or distinguish) that they are human too.
When you support leaders generously and from within the proper context, relating to them as the distinction that they have assigned without taking them personally, the stage is set for everyone to succeed.
P.S. Over endowing someone with divine characteristics and superior qualities, is being irresponsible for the greatness that is in you. You can’t think too highly about someone else without thinking too little of yourself.
(Leader is a distinction. And we are all distinct)