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Dailies for 07.25.2008

There Goes The Neighborhood

Dana @ 6:53 PM | Filed under: General

When I was growing up, there were few things better than summer fruit!

During the winter it was mostly apples, bananas and oranges, which were eaten more out of obligation than anything else. I came to think of those three piece of fruit as undesirable because they were always just sitting there so available.

But –

with the warm weather came the promise of strawberries, blueberries, raspberries and watermelon — sweet and juicy and deliciously uncommon! We never took, what we thought of as summer fruit, for granted. We savored every bite.

And so,

One of the things that I enjoy most about moving to New York was the fact that there are fresh fruit stands in every neighborhood and that means that you can get “summer fruit” all year round.

I fell in love with one fruit stand in particular because it was no frills, no nonsense, in the neighborhood, really cheap and the fruit was always sweet.

Winter, spring, summer or fall, stopping at that particular fruit stand would still be part of my daily routine except for the fact that, what used to be my favorite fruit stand is now a –

Bank of America.

Dailies for 07.22.2008

I’d Like To Buy A Vowel, Please

Dana @ 5:04 PM | Filed under: General

My mother-in-law has just recently moved into a nursing home which Auguste insists on referring to as anything but. He prefers Assisted Living Facility or Senior Residential Community. Whichever way you slice it, whatever term you use to try and describe it, it’s definitely not home.

While visiting with her this past week, I met her new room mate, Glenna. Auguste had met her before. Glenna is seventy two years old and is partially paralyzed as a result of a stroke. Her quick wit, however, remains uncompromised. She is very funny even though it takes her a few moments to communicate her thoughts.

On the wall just opposite Glenna’s bed, are photographs of her in her prime. She worked as a contract player for Columbia Pictures and the photo of her with Kirk Douglas really captures her as the stunning beauty that she was. Elegant, graceful and charismatic is how the shrine on her wall defines her and she was eager to share with me what life in Hollywood was like back then.

I was eager to talk about Gussie and to my surprise, Glenna was very interested in knowing about the daughter of a stranger; in finding out about who she was. Beyond just being polite she seemed genuinely enthusiastic about the world of a thirteen year old girl whom she might never meet. I read one of Gussie’s poems to her and afterward she smiled, the way you do when someone pays you the sincerest of compliments.

I ended up spending my time at the “nursing home” that evening visiting almost entirely with Glenna, feeding her tapioca pudding and lukewarm Lipton tea, while Auguste visited with his mom, who was happy to share me as if she were doling out favors to the less advantaged. I wondered, as Glenna and I ended our evening having successfully guessed every single one of the puzzles on Wheel of Fortune, just how likely it would have been that, in another time and in another place, under different circumstances, we would have ever been friends. Would she have cared at all, in her heyday, about the poetry of a thirteen year old girl? And had life not dealt me the unexpected blows that it has, could I have genuinely considered an evening of watching Wheel of Fortune, while feeding tapioca pudding to a grown woman I had only just met –

simply delightful…

Dailies for 07.14.2008

The Men From The Boys

Dana @ 6:47 PM | Filed under: General

A friend shared the excerpt below with me and then she was kind enough to copy it and email it to me. It not only speaks for itself, but it makes me want to – SHUT UP.

The Book: Writing From Personal Experience
by Nancy Davidoff Kelton
copyright: 1997
Publisher: Writer’s Digest Books

Before ever I read or saw Death of a Salesman, my mother was fond of telling me about a particular scene. It is the one in which Willy Loman is in the reception area of his neighbor Charley’s office waiting for him to come out. Charley’s son, Bernard, is there too. He is on his way to Washington, DC, and stopped in to see his dad. He and Willy talk for a while. Bring their personal histories to date.

Charlie emerges. He sends Bernard off with his very best wishes, then turns to Willy and says, “Is that something? He’s trying a case before the Supreme Court.”

“The Supreme Court!” Willy, of course, is incredulous. He and Bernard had been talking so much about themselves. How come he’s just hearing about this now?” He didn’t tell me.”

Then Charley says those famous words, the ones I was told to take in: “He didn’t have to. He’s going to do it.”

Didn’t talk about it. Just going to go do it.

Truly life’s great divide:

Those who work and accomplish don’t yap. And those who yap don’t do.

Dailies for 07.08.2008


Dana @ 2:36 PM | Filed under: General

Some random thoughts for a Tuesday Morning (coming off of a long weekend):

1) Getting mad at someone and not telling them why you are mad or that you even are MAD –

is just so unkind.

2) Thoughts should be considered as sweet fruit or fine wine. Until allowed to fully ripen,
they should remain –


3) Resolve for yourself that you will faithfully fight your way back to a place beyond your temptation to just give up and settle for –

what you don’t have to pursue.

Dailies for 07.04.2008

The Original “S” Word

Dana @ 10:04 AM | Filed under: General

As a nation, we recognize July 4th, 1776 as the beginning of our independence. But, it wasn’t until September 3, 1783 that The Treaty of Paris was signed between Britain and America providing for the recognition of American independence. It was not until 1783 that the British finally conceded that America was in fact, free.

So, technically, on July Fourth 1776, the United States of America was not free at all, really. In 1776, according to the circumstances, America was still under British dominion. Americans still made and spent British money. British soldiers still patrolled the colonies, still in charge. The official church was still the Church of England. King George was still the BOSS.

But the founding fathers refused to rely on what the circumstances told them was true. Instead, they chose to be bold and to declare independence even if it seemed unpopular, impossible, unlikely to achieve. The United States of America lived free as of July Fourth 1776, because of their declaration, that it was so.

The founding fathers of the United States of America lived by the word of their mouth as free and Independent for seven years and then in 1783, it finally came to pass.

I do give Thomas Jefferson, John Adams, John Hancock and the rest, credit. I give them credit — but, I have to admit that I struggle as I do.

On the one had, it was a pretty courageous, optimistic and bold to take the stand for independence that they took. On the other hand they took that stand for independence while —

denying others the very freedom they desired for themselves; the very freedom they proposed as a founding principle for the United States of America.

Slavery is still the difficult truth that America has yet to fully embrace as part of its original legacy. To recognize and celebrate The Fourth of July without some kind of an acknowledgement that, at one time, not everybody in America was allowed to live free, is to ignore the entire truth and the full reality of what the holiday could be all about, and it severely undermines the possibility for America to finally move beyond. To include that undeniable bit of our history, as part of the story that we tell once a year, would be yet another –

pretty courageous, optimistic and bold stand for independence, indeed.

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