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Dana @ 10:44 PM | Filed under: General

Can you ever really be happy unless you have experienced profound sadness? Is it possible to truly experience success if you’ve never ever failed?

I have been giving this a lot of thought lately and I don’t think that you can have one without the other, anymore than the front of the hand can exist without the back.

I think that some of the most beautiful people that I know are people who have overcome.

People who have been tested by fire and emerged unconsumed —

are the people that you want to have over for dinner.

15 Comments

  1. I do not think you necessarily have to have experienced sadness to experience or know what happiness is. If we had to believe that then we are condemning the world to have to suffer.

    Some people have suffered and are truly wonderful despite or because of it. Other people have suffered and by gum, they sure let you know it.

    Is it the suffering that maketh the person or is it something in the person anyway? Or a combination?

    Comment by Doris — 12/13/2005 @ 6:25 AM

  2. (By the way I’m on my Mom’s computer and this is her daughter Gussie)

    I agree with what you are saying to a point.

    But can you really have the good without the bad?

    Comment by Dana — 12/13/2005 @ 5:41 PM

  3. Hello Gussie!

    “But can you really have the good without the bad?” Why not is what I say. There is nothing to say it has to be like that and to say it is to condemn us all to having really bad times in order to apreciate the good.

    I do not think you need bad to appreciate when things are good. Some people are narrow and need to be hit on the head first in order to appreciate when they are not being hit on the head but maybe they have grown up not being taught to truly appreciate everything?

    (Please know that I am not for one minute suggesting that people suffer because they are narrow or because their parents didn’t teach them. Our world is far too complicated to be simplistic and I do think it is simplistic to suggest that one has to have the bad with the good.)

    Another idea: when I was in my 20s I used to console myself that because I had such terrible times that I also had amazingly wonderful experiences. Then there came a point in my life when I decided I didn’t want these ups and downs and was prepared to let go of the fantastic experiences in order to have more balance and less of the bad. I had less bad but then I found I still had plenty of good. So I wonder that if by believing we have to have bad to experience the good that we invite the bad upon us.

    (But know that I am not saying that people bring all bad stuff upon them! Some really bad stuff happens and there is no explanation.)

    Interesting.

    Comment by Doris — 12/14/2005 @ 3:57 AM

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